Marriage as God wants it

JOHANN CHRISTOPH ARNOLD.

All week long, New York newspapers have published articles celebrating gay marriage, with front-page photos of men (or women) kissing each other. Almost everyone appears to be rejoicing, but I wonder how happy these couples really are.

I would like to believe that they are happy, and yet I know that marital bliss can be attained only when God’s order – that is, marriage between one man and one woman – is adhered to. Such marriages were long considered to be the bedrock of civilization, but civilization as we know it is now doomed, because this foundation is being destroyed and redefined.

By declaring God’s laws irrelevant, we are sending a wrong message to our children. Instead of congratulating ourselves on being open-minded and tolerant, we should start worrying about the confusion and emotional trauma we are bestowing on our children and youth.

My family was expelled from Germany at a time when Hitler had perfected the art of propaganda. He knew that if you tell a lie often enough, it eventually becomes accepted as truth. This is exactly what happened in Germany, and it is happening in our country now. Lies are proclaimed as truth, and any opposing voice is silenced.

I pray that the many people in our country who still believe in right and wrong will have the courage to express themselves publically on this important issue. We need a national referendum to decide what direction we want for our future. And we need to pray for our children and youth, who are fast becoming confused.

Let us return to the time when our nation put its full trust in God. In the end, God’s truth cannot be silenced, and will be victorious

SAVE A MARRIAGE ADVICE-3 Tips To Help You Rekindle Your Love

A lot of marriage failed because couples do not take responsibility for the role that they play in a relationship. Very often, blaming the other instead of oneself become the favourite pastime of couples and when there are conflicts, they choose the most convenient mean - walking away instead of trying to save the marriage!
Apparently these couples have short term memories because they are the same individuals who have vowed to support and to love each other through thick and thin! However, divorce has now become an easy way out for people who do not have the courage to salvage what deserves to be salvaged. When couples go through a divorce, they channel all their energies into accusing each other of causing hurt and disharmony in the marriage. They forget that in the process, their children are the ones most deeply hurt! If they have channeled their energies to save the marriage, more than one human being is saved!
So is it possible to save your marriage? Yes, if you had loved each other in the first place, you will definitely be able to rekindle the love and here are 3 ways in which you can save your marriage.

1. Share financial responsibilities Many married couples forget that it takes two hands to clap so now that they are married, both party should be responsible for the family financially. Being married means you are united as one so you should shoulder the burden of raising a family together.
Find out each others' spending style and come to a compromise on how best you can save and at the same time not have to sting on yourself. Spend some time to prioritize what is important to you and to your family, especially if you have children. You need to come to a mutual agreement on how you can divide out the burden of financial responsibility.

2. Never go to bed angry I strongly believe that this is very sound advice to building a lasting relationship because you and your spouse are two very different individuals so there are bound to be conflicts. The important point is that you must find ways to resolve those conflicts. By all means take time off to cool down but after a storm, both of you have to sit down and discuss the issue together. You have to listen to each other and find a solution or come to a compromise but never leave the fight overnight.
It is very unhealthy to go to bed angry and you will only cause a drift in the relationship if you do not try to resolve your problem first. After which, you should forget about the fight and make up for it in bed. It is vital to forget about the problem after the fight had been resolved if you want to save your marriage.

3। Plan time for romance Many married couples forget to plan a time for romance, especially if they have children। In order for a marriage to last long, it is important not to forget to spend time to be intimate. Marriage is not the end of romance, it is the start of a whole new life together. If you sense that something is not right in your relationship, you need to make time for each other so that you can save your marriage.

People are constantly busy nowadays so if you do not find time for your spouse so as to rekindle the love in your relationship, it will hit trouble. It is definitely not worthwhile to spend all your time carving out a career for your family only to discover that you have lost your marriage in the end!
The above are just 3 of the 15 tips in the ebook "15 Steps Towards Improving Your Marriage". Simply apply the strategies in the ebook which you can download immediately and you are on your way to saving your marriage. Don't wait till it's too late to start saving your marriage. You deserve a better life than the present agony and suffering that you are going through. If you have children, you must remember that you are not suffering alone! You do not want your failed marriage to affect your children's psychological development! Seeking the right advice from the right people will help you to save your marriage and start life afresh with your spouse. All you have to do is to take action now and log on to Stella's website at http://www.stellamak.com/recommend/savemarriagetips.html.
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DEALING WITH INFIDELITY:How to keep your relationship

Infidelity can cause tears, anger and heartbreak। It can also lead to separation and divorce. However, dealing with infidelity with the result that it strengthens your relationship is also possible. When one partner cheats, it could be for any one of several reasons. The cheating partner might have been feeling neglected or ignored. There might have been a lack of intimacy in the marriage or an excess of alcohol one night. These things to happen and if you know how to deal with infidelity, there is a chance to work things out rather than throw everything away over one mistake.

The first thing to do is to make sure you know whether your spouse is cheating or not। You might have a "hunch" about it but this isn't proof! Just because your partner doesn't seem interested in you any more is not proof of an affair. He or she might be tired, stressed at work or have another reason for their lack of interest in bed. If your partner is cheating, they will be thinking a lot about the affair, which distracts them. They might keep their cellphone turned off or on mute. A mysterious second cellphone can also be a sign. Your partner might be away from home a lot with a variety of excuses or always "working late" but not actually in the office when you phone. You could ask your partner straight out. Depending on how good they are at lying and how they feel can give the game away too. Some people even admit to an affair if they are questioned directly.

If you find out for sure that your partner has been cheating, you will probably want to shout, scream, tell the world, pack their bags and throw them out। How to deal with infidelity does vary from person to person, but knowing it is possible to recover from this blow can help you to work through it. Communication is vital and if you feel unable to talk about it, you might want to consult a marriage counselor. It can take years to rebuild the broken trust so plenty of reassurance is vital, as is changing your routines or trying to work out what was missing in your marriage. If both of you want to get over the episode of infidelity, the chances of doing so are obviously much better.

Once you are getting back on track from infidelity, you need to recover and move on with your relationship। You will obviously want to ensure it doesn't happen again. The best way of dealing with infidelity is to discover the reason behind it. If your partner admits to feeling neglected, try to spend more time together. If the reason was a lack of intimacy in your own relationship, try to work on this together. Don't throw blame at your partner every time something goes wrong. They are probably feeling guilty enough already. Remember all the things that brought you together in the first place and try to recreate some of that magic.

Knowing how to deal with infidelity can make the difference between a renewed, stronger relationship and divorce। Once you have discovered your partner's infidelity it is bound to be difficult but by focusing on saving and improving what you have together, you might be able to put the cheating behind you and move on with your relationship and your lives together.

I-N-C-R-I-B-L-E B U T TRUE Discover how I got married with less than N2,500 in my Bank Account… This is the true inside information that can turn your wedding dreams and aspiration into reality। Dear Friend, My name is Solomon Lawrence। I own and run successful blogs that,include:http://www.wedding-made-easy.blogspot.com http://www.itisallaboutmarriage.blogspot.com. These blogs contain informative articles on virtually everything about Wedding as well as crucial issue on Marriage. Remember a fellow that is not informed will be Deformed! I will like to continue this letter by asking you some questions: · Do you want to save Money on your Wedding? · Do you have the financial power but tired of seeing your mates getting Married one after the other because of lack of ideas to kick start your Wedding Plan? · Are you a man or Woman presently in a Relationship that should have materialized into a Grand Wedding or Marriage but because of lack of Financial Power or Wedding ideas you are about to give up? · Do you know you can have the Wedding of your dreams without spending a fortune? · Do you know that you don’t have to wait for years all-in-the name of saving money for your Wedding? · Do you know that you don’t have to be working in a multi-national company with very fat salary before you can turn your Wedding dream into reality? · Do you know that you do not have to borrow money in order to kick start your Wedding Plans? · Do you know that you Parents do not have to be extremely rich before you can Wed your Lovely Spouse-to-be? · Are you wondering if you will ever get married with the prevailing economic situation in Nigeria? · Does getting Wedded to a Man or Woman you love looks like a mirage because of inadequate information on how to plan your wedding? · …Lets not go further for I have experienced all the above questions.

MY OFFER I have decide to package the answers as well as how to successfully plan and execute your wedding plans whether you are very rich, rich, not too rich or not rich at all (I hate to use the word poor) I have weakness though… What is it? I LOVE HELPING PEOPLE! My simple yet proven information of how against all odds, I got Married even with less than N2,500 in my Bank Account while working in a Lebanese Company.
THIS E-BOOK WILL TEACH YOU: · How to Marry without Borrowing a Kobo। · How to raise Money for your Wedding Plans. · How to Plan for your Dream Wedding Ceremony. · How to Plan a Wedding Budget. · How to set up Committee of Friends for your Wedding. · How to choose a Wedding Reception Venue (Questionnaire that will help you…) · The importance of Pre-Marriage Counseling. · What Wedding Checklist is all about · And lot’s more.
THE ULTIMATE GUARANTEE You have nothing to lose. You are reading this while looking for a way, to quit Bachelorhood or Spinsterhood; my e-book will make it happen by the Grace of God.
HOW MUCH SHOULD THIS EBOOK COST? Apart from sleepless nights as well as time it took me to put this package together, it cost me more than N30,000… I don’t know about your Financial Capability probably you’re well off enough to pay that much। What I know is that there are many others out there who won’t be able to afford that much, which means I have to come down on the price for you. I have decide to give away this product for just N1,800 so as to help you kick start your Wedding dreams.
BONUS Included in this e-book are: - Questionnaire for Wedding Reception Venue। - Various Work Sheet on Wedding Ideas, Bride/Groom guest list, Contacts, the Reception, Wedding Attire, etc.
ORDERING INSTRUCTION Pay N1,800 in my Account at any Branch Oceanic Bank Plc। But the First 25 people to pay N1,500.
Account Name: Lawrence Solomon Bamidele
Account No: 0040001022441
Account Type: Easy Save
Send an email to myweddingsuccess@gmail।com & then text 08079527840 (Text only please) with the following details. Your name. Your email address (if you are Texting). Branch paid into. Date of Payment. It is now my turn to do all the work… we will confirm your payment as soon as you notify me. Once our Bankers say you truly have paid, I will send your package via your email within 24 hours. Please,you may have to check your SPAM box in your e-mail box if you did not see it in your inbox.It is simple! So let’s wrap this up dear friend. For how long will you keep postponing your wedding because of lack of ideas or money? If you truly want to get wedded, when is the time to start? I’m sure you agree that the time is now. By His grace, this e-book can if applied properly help you achieve your wedding dreams. I’m standing by expecting your payment notification. Your package is waiting to be delivered to you right away, I love to see you get married! Your Friend, Solomon Lawrence MD/CEO Above Only Marketing Inc. Myweddingsuccess Group, myweddingsuccess@gmail.com

I-N-C-R-E-D-I-B-L-E BUT TRUE !!!
Discover how I got married with less than N2,500 in my Bank Account…
This is the true inside information that can turn year wedding dreams and aspiration into a reality.
Dear Friend,
My name is Solomon Lawrence. I own and run successful blogs thacrucial issue on Marriage. Remember a fellow that is not informed will be Deformedt,include:http://www.wedding-made-easy.blogspot.com http://www.itisallaboutmarriage.blogspot.com. These blogs contain informative articles on virtually everything about Wedding as well as !
I will like to continue this letter by asking you some questions:
Do you want to save Money on your Wedding?
Do you have the financial power but tired of seeing your mates getting Married one after the other because of lack of ideas to kick start your Wedding Plan?
Are you a man or Woman presently in a Relationship that should have materialized into a Grand Wedding or Marriage but because of lack of Financial Power or Wedding ideas you are about to give up?
Do you know you can have the Wedding of your dreams without spending a fortune?
Do you know that you don’t have to wait for years all-in-the name of saving money for your Wedding?
Do you know that you don’t have to be working in a multi-national company with very fat salary before you can turn your Wedding dream into reality?
Do you know that you do not have to borrow money in order to kick start your Wedding Plans?
Do you know that you Parents do not have to be extremely rich before you can Wed your Lovely Spouse-to-be?
Are you wondering if you will ever get married with the prevailing economic situation in Nigeria?
Does getting Wedding to a Man or Woman you love looks like a mirage because of inadequate information on how to plan your wedding?
…Lets not go further for I have experienced all the above questions.
MY OFFER
I have decide to package the answers as well as how to successfully plan and execute your wedding plans whether you are very rich, rich, not too rich or not rich at all (I hate to use the word poor)
I have weakness though…
What is it?
I LOVE HELPING PEOPLE!
My simple yet proven information of how against all odds, I got Married even with less than N2,500 in my Bank Account while working in a Lebanese Company.
THIS E-BOOK WILL TEACH YOU:
How to Marry without Borrowing a Kobo.
How to raise Money for your Wedding Plans.
How to Plan for your Dream Wedding Ceremony.
How to Plan a Wedding Budget.
How to set up Committee of Friends for your Wedding.
How to choose a Wedding Reception Venue (Questionnaire that will help you…)
The importance of Pre-Marriage Counseling.
What Wedding Checklist is all about
And lot’s more.
THE ULTIMATE GUARANTEE
You have nothing to lose. You are reading this while looking for a way, to quit Bachelorhood or Spinsterhood; my e-book will make it happen by the Grace of God.
HOW MUCH SHOULD THIS EOOK BCOST?
Apart from sleepless nights as well as time it took me to put this package together, it cost me more than N30,000…
I don’t know about your Financial Capability probably you’re well off enough to pay that much. What I know is that there are many others out there who won’t be able to afford that much, which means I have to come down on the price for you.
I have decide to give away this product for just N3,000 so as to help you kick start your Wedding dreams.
BONUS
Included in this e-book are:
Questionnaire for Wedding Reception Venue.
Various Work Sheet on Wedding Ideas, Bride/Groom guest list, Contacts, the Reception, Wedding Attire, etc.
ORDERING INSTRUCTION
Pay N3,000 in my Account at any Branch Oceanic Bank Plc.
But the First 25 people to pay N2,500.
Account Name: Lawrence Solomon Bamidele
Account No: 0040001022441
Account Type: Easy Save
Send an email to myweddingsuccess@gmail.com or text 08079527840 (Text only please) with the following details.
Your name. Your email address (if you are Texting). Branch paid into. Date of Payment.
It is now my turn to do all the work… we will confirm your payment as soon as you notify me. Once our Bankers say you truly have paid, I will send your package via your email within 24-48 hours.
It is simple! So let’s wrap this up dear friend.
For how long will you keep postponing your wedding because of lack of ideas or money? If you truly want to get wedded, when is the time to start? I’m sure you agree that the time is now.
By His grace, this e-book can if applied properly help you achieve your wedding dreams. I’m standing by expecting your payment notification. Your package is waiting to be delivered to you right away,
I love to see you get married!
Your Friend,
Solomon Lawrence
MD/CEO Above Only Marketing Inc.
Myweddingsuccess Group,
myweddingsuccess@gmail.com
PS: With this e-book you are either a winner or a winner. So HURRY now before the price shots up.

TIPS FOR MEN ON HOW TO IMPROVE A MARRIAGE

One of the worst things anyone can do is to take their wife for granted.
In the beginning there was love
When we begin a new relationship, it’s so exciting. The buzz, the expectation, the passion…it's intoxicating. We want to impress our prospective partners so we shower them with gifts, buy flowers, go for romantic meals, visit romantic places, all things designed to show your lady how much you love and want her, and hoping to convince her that you’re the man for her.
We all do it. It’s natural. And yet, many of us let this slip after a few years of marriage. But, I hear you say, we can’t afford that lifestyle any more. We want to raise a family, and we must economize. Piffle.
More ways of skinning a cat
So, you need to economize? This is understandable, and almost noble, especially if you want to start a family. But it doesn’t mean that you have to stop showing your love for her. Don’t think that just because she married you, that you can stop wooing her. Women always need to be shown they are loved, desired and wanted.
Instead of taking her out for expensive restaurant meals, prepare the occasional romantic meal at home. It’s so much cheaper than eating out, but more than that, it shows your partner you care, that you have taken the time and trouble to cook for her, and to prepare that private intimate experience to share.
Alternatively you can take her out for a picnic. This has all attraction of preparing a meal at home, but also adds the extra dimension of romantic surroundings if you choose them with thought.
Don’t stop bringing her gifts. They don’t have to be expensive. A flower picked on the way home, a bottle of wine you can share together…just small things, but things that keep the element of surprise there, that show you still care.
Personal grooming
You should always strive to look your best. There is nothing worse to a woman, than if her once handsome, smart man should turn into a scruffy, dirty slob. By keeping up your appearance, you are not only obviously looking good, but you are keeping her attraction to you alive, and you are honoring her by looking good for her.
That’s what she does for you…looks good... for you! It’s not for some other Tom, Dick, or Harry, it’s for you, and one of the simplest and most effective gestures you can do that will go a long way, is to let her know that you recognize it...often.
The physical manifestation of love
Making love is of course the ultimate show of your love for your partner. Make love often. Not only does it cost nothing (practical but true), it shows your wife that you still care for her. Be a little adventurous (that doesn’t mean swinging from the chandelier) be a little naughty...flirting is fun. Above all be gentle and caring.
The key
Showing you still care is the absolute key. Tell her you love her regularly. Not too often. You don’t want to spoil the girl, but say it unexpectedly. It’s so much more effective.
Always make that extra time for her. No matter what other priorities you may think you have at the time, she is more important to you than anything else in the world. You can always make the time if you bear this thought in mind.
Be kind and considerate. It doesn’t mean you have to be effeminate. Women love strong men who, whilst being masculine, can also show them kindness and consideration.
Talk
As simple as it may seem, communication is such an important factor in any marriage. Through life’s journey together, you will meet problems. But, if you can meet these problems together, head on, discuss them, and agree the way forward, your marriage will remain strong

A HAPPY MARRIAGE-5 EASY TIPS

Everybody wants a happy marriage. However, nobody seems to want to do what it takes to have one. Most people want to have everything go their way, but that's not realistic and most likely won't happen. Therefore, put these 5 tips to work in your relationship so your marriage can be its best.
1. The first thing you need to do to have a happy marriage is be self-less. It's not easy, but it does work. Selfishness and being self-centered are major causes of an unhappy marriage. If you both put this principle into practice your marriage will be problem free.
2. Showing that you care is another way to have a happy marriage. This helps your partner feel loved and secure. Doing the little things like buying gifts for no reason and giving them attention really does wonders for their self esteem.
3. Learning to make sacrifices helps keep a marriage happy by letting things go that could escalate into an argument. Do you want to have a happy marriage or do you need to be right all the time? Don't allow pride to get in the way, keep the peace.
4. Intimacy is essential for a happy marriage with kisses, hugs, touching, I love you's, hand holding and of course sex. Lack of sex or dull sex can put a huge strain on a marriage.
5. Good communication is a must for marriage to be a happy one, no secrets allowed. Everything should be discussed honestly and openly without fear of being berated.
If you put these 5 easy tips into practice everyday you will have a happy marriage. For it to work you both have to be willing it cannot be one-sided.
For more great marriage tips go to http://www.tipsformarriage.org where you will find solutions, not just answers, to all your marriage problems.
by Sonni Carr
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